Relationship difficulties can be so destructive that risks associated with these difficulties can quickly develop. The problems may be so consuming that individuals experience career downfalls, domestic disasters as well as creating awful physical health difficulties.
Why do some individuals push nice relationships away and put up with destructive relationships? It’s a fascinating topic to study, but not to live in it, in real life!
There are a host of reasons why this pattern of behaviour persists;
A Case Study.
Jason is experiencing negative thoughts every day, this is impacting on his behaviour as he is beginning to withdraw from his family and friends, there are also problems for him at work involving his motivation.
Attachment issues involve more that one thing, it starts when we are babies and continues throughout our lives. A lack of early attachment with a primary caregiver can cause life long problems, but not in every case.
It often seems easier to dwell on something that has hurt you within a relationship, or ruminate on the event, words or behaviours that have occurred, does it solve the problem? No it makes it worse. So why do it, find another way to share what has upset and bothered you, communicate.
First and foremost, are you happy with yourself? Do you know what your strengths and weaknesses are? Is this the right time for you to fall in love? Do you have the time? What is it that you want to achieve out of this loving relationship? What are you prepared to deal with in a new relationship?